I was recently reading an amazing book that made this bold statement. The one who wrote it had been saved out of a very sinful lifestyle. This person was an interesting test case for marriage because she had, at one point despised it and scoffed at it. But through God’s grace she had totally been transformed and through reading God’s Word – by learning what marriage is and who ordained it and how it can be done – she made this startling claim….”Anyone can have a good marriage.”
Any broken vessel will do – who has been softened in the potters firm and loving hands. No matter the marring, the hurt, the rebellion, the crud, the hopelessness! Anyone can in Christ!
Then, the author quoted from the “charge” given by the pastor who performed their wedding. The key of course is God’s transforming love seeded in the heart and mind and then fleshed out in obedience into everyday life.
I would like to share part of the “charge” as it applies to the groom -yah, us men. Being one, I know the challenges and the particular struggles – the risks but also the rewards of being in a lifetime covenant with a woman. For me it has been my station in life for over 34 years and I have a really good woman as a wife. But I am a man, a sinner man, and so, I know the ups and the downs that accompany even a “blessed” marriage. I also know that it takes a daily commitment…and that it is sometimes incredibly stretching, and that I need every bit of encouragement and help along the way.
If this “charge” below excites your electrons to a higher orbit, then you are a follower of Christ who desires a really good marriage. It is after all, God’s Word with a pastor’s Biblical exhortation to us guys! That is exciting! If not – examine your heart and give in to the Master – for all who call on the name of the Lord shall be saved! Then, you too can have a good marriage!
Through God’s Word, we can change and be continually changed to better reflect the Lord Jesus in our life and relationships. If you are not married – you, of course can apply all of 1 Corinthians to your life relationships – especially chapter thirteen which is the center of this “charge” and you will be truly blessed as well. Many marriages, even ones in the “church” are not good – in fact they are a source of misery. That breaks my heart. But that can change today…as we meekly accept the “implanted Word” we can all experience the blessing of the transformation that is ours for the asking!
Well…here it is…enjoy this and be blessed as I was today!
* Test your love toward your wife by the scripture’s own definition of love in 1 Corinthians 13:
Love suffers long and is kind;
When you are tempted to be impatient and harsh with your wife, remember the infinite patience that Christ has shown toward you, and continues to show on a daily basis.
Love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;
When you are tempted to be jealous for preeminence over your wife, remember Christ who did not think it beneath Himself to wash the feet of His disciples. Love does not behave rudely, does not seek its own; When you are tempted to insist upon your own way, and belittle your wife, remember the condescension of Christ, who left the glorious habitation of heaven, clothed Himself with flesh, and endured the shame and suffering of the cross all for the sake of your own helpless, hopeless soul.
Love is not provoked,
When you are tempted to raise your voice in frustration against your wife, remember Christ, who “when he was reviled, did not revile in return.”
Love thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;
When you are tempted to judge her motives, or to exalt in being proven right when she is in the wrong, remember Christ who had every right to think evil of you and to rejoice in your destruction, but instead took your shame upon Himself and covered you with His righteousness. When you are tempted to belittle your wife, or to sit quietly while others tear her down, remember Christ, who comes to the defense of His sheep and stands between them and the accuser.
Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
When you are tempted to throw in the towel, and surrender hope that your marriage can continue— when conflicts mount and it seems that it would be easier to walk away than to persevere, remember Christ who bears your sin daily in order to cause your hope to persevere until the end, and who promises “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” The love of Christ for His people is not based upon any worthiness within them, nor should your love toward your wife be conditioned upon her actions and your judgment as to whether or not she has earned your love.
Love never fails.
Therefore, what God has joined together, let no man separate. In all of these things, and in many more ways, the self-sacrificial, loving headship of the Christian husband mirrors the love of Christ for His Church. This is your calling as you enter into this sacred union. But there is more.
There is more! If you would like someone to pray with you about your marriage – please call and ask! If you need to talk to someone about the claims of Christ – and about the love and grace that is only available in Him – please call. Our number is listed on the Contact page. God bless you richly,
(* quoted from Pastor Doug Comin) by Butterfield, Rosaria (2012-09-06). The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely Convert (Kindle Locations 1888-1916). Crown & Covenant Publications. Kindle Edition.